When Ryan Gosling won his Best Actor Golden Globe Sunday night, for his role in La La Land, he made sure to thank his wife, Eva Mendes, who was raising two children, and caring for her cancer-stricken brother while he was making the movie.
“If she hadn’t taken all that on so that I could have this experience, [there] would surely be someone else up here other than me to today.” Gosling gushed. ” Sweetheart, thank you.”
But whatmost people viewed as a sweet moment, was in reality, according to Internet feminists, a sexist, misogynistic, and hetero-normative attack on the role of women in society, and Ryan Gosling should be ashamed for his disgraceful behavior.
Writing for the Independent, Narjas Zatat claimed that Gosling’s appreciation, while appearing genuine, merely played into “structural inequality women face in the workplace,” particularly in Hollywood, where women are also award-winning actors.
While its entirely possible that Gosling and Mendes worked out an arrangement as equal partners in their relationship, and certainly two people in a marriage can have varying degrees of responsibility at times based on career and family needs that have nothing to do with the Patriarchal expectations inherent in the social structure itself, Zatat insists that there’s no way Mendes wasn’t coerced into taking a submissive position.
“Mendes has agency, and the decision to put her career on the back burner for the sake of her husband’s was hers, but why did she have to make that decision to begin with,” Zatat whines.
Her evidence? There is a strikingly low number of female directors among Hollywood’s elite, and women actors have approximately 60% of the dialogue men do in major motion pictures, overall. Since she didn’t have the same opportunities as her husband, Zatat theorizes, Mendes simply gave up and went back to child rearing.
Mendes would likely disagree. Besides acting, and the occasional birth-giving, Mendes is a model and ambassador for several major fashion houses as well as a fashion (and home accessories) designer in her own right and is the creative director of CIRCA beauty. But, it seems, Zatat only dug into her filmography.
Gosling also insists that he’s not anti-feminist. He claimed, in an interview in September that women, including his wife, were “better and stronger” than men, but that is also a ragingly sexist comment, says Zatat, because it elevates women to a standard that normal females can never hope to achieve.